Conflict Resolution

Hello everyone! Now, I am going to tell you guys about how to resolve or as you all say, fix your conflicts, and there are lots of ways to do so, so let's get started!

First, let's state your situation, like what your conflict is about, and for example, the conflict is about someone getting gossiped by a group of people. She was badly hurt and never talk to anyone anymore.

Secondly, write the names of the people involved. Example: Lily was gossiped by Lola and Sam. When you know that they are gossiping about you, try to stop them, because it isn't nice to do so. Gossips are yucky and icky. *bleah*

Thirdly, write the time and place of offense, like where the gossiping happened to you so that the person that see your conflict resolution paper will understand this conflict really well and try to solve it with you guys. For example Time: Lunch at 12.00pm, place: library.

Fourthly, write the exact nature of the conflict or in other words, write what happened. If you do write what happened, people would easily solve your problem. They could just read it , and try to solve it. No one can solve a problem without understanding it right? For example: Lily was walking by the library and looking at books there, and all of a sudden, some students gossiped about her and say mean things to her.

Fifth, Pray and think about your conflict, you should be able to fix it already. And after you do so, think about verses from the Bible to comfort you, because the Bible always comforts people, there is no problem to believe the Bible is true!

Bible verses that match your conflicts!

• Matthew 7:1-3
  “Don’t judge, so that you won’t be judged.
  2  For with whatever judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with whatever measure you measure, it will be measured to you.
  3  Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but don’t consider the beam that is in your own eye?

This means that you shouldn't judge people, or else, you will also be judged, and try to not jude people badly, because however you judge people, you will be judged like that, and you can never fix other's problems when you haven't take out your problem first.

• Matthew 18:15-17
  15  “If your brother sins against you, go, show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother.
  16  But if he doesn’t listen, take one or two more with you, that at the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
  17  If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the assembly. If he refuses to hear the assembly also, let him be to you as a Gentile or a tax collector.

This means that if someone is against you, go to him and tell him that he is wrong. If he doesn't commit that he is doing something wrong, go with 1 more person, so it makes 2, and then if he still doesn't admit that he did something wrong, take 3 people, and if he still don't admit it, take ann organization or something to make him admit, perhaps he would admit his mistake by now. But if he still don't admit it, leave him alone. So, for a short cut, it is 1, 2, 3, 10, go.

• Matthew 5:23-24
  23  “If therefore you are offering your gift at the altar, and there remember that your brother has anything against you,
  24  leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.

If you do something wrong to others, first, resolve or fix it, and then offer him a gift for a memory or something, but never ever ever! give your gift as a bribe to let others be friends with you or to forgive you!

• Galatians 6:1
  1  Brothers, even if a man is caught in some fault, you who are spiritual must restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; looking to yourself so that you also aren’t tempted.

This means that you should forgive people gently. But be careful, you might be tempted.

• 1 Thessalonians 5:14
  14  We exhort you, brothers, admonish the disorderly, encourage the fainthearted, support the weak, be patient toward all.

We have to warn people who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone!

Sixth, ask if someone could help you resolve the conflict, maybe Pastor Mak could. He would give you ideas and sometimes tell the correct thing to others, but not harming them.

Don't be selfish vain and conceit. It is proven by the Bible that it says: Do nothing out of selfish ambition, vain or conceit, but in humility, consider others better than yourself. Each of you should not look at your own interest, but also, the interest of others. (Philippians 2:3-4)

Want to have joy and no more conflicts, do this:

J:Jesus first

O:Others second

Y:You third.

Help each other to resolve the conflict! Yay! Hope that you guys understand what I am trying to tell you. God Bless!